My trip to Martha’s Vineyard
After a particularly tumultuous month at work, my trip to Martha’s Vineyard couldn’t have come at a better time. A series of events occurred that, without going into too much detail, caused me to question my position within my company, which I had just started to feel good about (after over a year of anxiety and general confusion.) Due to these changes that took place in the weeks leading up to my trip, I left Los Angeles determined to use this trip to do some self-reflection and some soul searching.
My trip to the Vineyard was pretty amazing. Slowing down to island pace for a few days was something I did not know I needed so badly. My days consisted of morning coffee on the porch, bike rides, ocean swims, and plenty of delicious food and wine. While there was plenty of time for self-reflection and general life planning, I decided to ignore the lofty goals I set for myself in lieu of being present and doing only the things I actually wanted to do (which did not include budgeting on excel.)
Only on the 6+ hour plane ride back did I manage to start and finish 3 of the 4 tasks I had set out to complete, including my aforementioned budget, refining my airstream timeline, and organizing my ideas for this blog. So, I’ve come here, to this little passion project of mine, to discuss a few things I’ve learned about goal setting through some major trial and error. (As with most of my posts, I really write and read them to remind myself of things I’ve learned, like where is the best taco in my neighborhood.)
Here are some of my goal-setting tips:
- Most importantly, write everything down. I use a pen and paper, but I also usually take a picture to keep on my phone, just in case. Whether you’re tracking things you want to accomplish for the month of June, or ideas for five years in the future, these cannot be thoughts that live only in your head. Writing keeps you accountable, and allows you to feel the gratification of physically checking them off of a list.
- If you want to get fancy, you can separate your goals to fit in certain “slicess” of your life, i.e. family, financial, self, and career.
- Look at your goals frequently. Think about your goals frequently. My longterm goals actually live in my wallet so I am forced to look at them all the time. This will motivate you to accomplish the items on your list, since they’re top of mind when moving through daily life.
- Understand how you are usually motivated and realize that sometimes you need to scale back your goals. Having goals that are overambitious is great, because it can set you along the right path, but making sure your list has goals that you feel very confident in achieving is key. Why? Because, if you are unable to accomplish anything on your list, it’s easy to get disappointed and lose your motivation to actively work on your other items (this holds true for me at least.)
- Related to point number three, you may need to reward yourself to help achieve specific goals. Usually for me, the achievement is enough motivation. However, for things like budgeting, fitness, etc., it can be helpful to use a reward, such as a trip or an item of clothing that you’ve been wanting, as a tangible reminder that you need to stay on a certain path in regards to that specific goal you’re working towards.
My personal goals for the month of June are:
- create more time for self-reflection (like… not scrolling through instagram before bed every night)
- more baking (I’ve tried two new cookie recipes so far this month, so I’m feeling pretty good about this one)
- Airstream progress (more on this later)
- more reading (see mention of instagram above)
- sticking to my budget (well…. I’m trying)
How do you stick to your goals? Let me know if you have any tips or think I missed something!